[quote=JeffSTLShe repeated her sequence of reasons she was leaving, blah, blah, blah, I told her OM was a big problem for me, that because of what she is doing I cannot stand to even look at her
She said OM was not the reason for her leaving. I told her I want her out of my house out of my life, out out out !!!!. Told her our whole M was a waist that she should just take the wedding album outside and burn it.
Again, I am the worse DB person on this site, I'm inflexible on subject of OM, get rid of OM and I'll talk, other than that, get out of my house, get out of my life, get away from me completely.
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OK, I the "goodbye, witch!" was a little harsh, but I don't see anything wrong with what you did, Jeff. Your emotions were REAL, and they were at least HONEST, and frankly, you guys could USE little more honesty around there.
I mean, you can't operate with her with this anger on a day-to-day basis, but my personal opinion is, a helluva lot MORE people on these boards need to take the position of "get rid of OM/OW, and we'll talk." Dating, MCing, hugging, kissing, making love, rescuing, placating, pleasing, etc. -- while a spouse is in an active affair, known to both spouses -- I just don't get it, and I DON'T agree.
If that makes me "not very DB," then I guess I'm guilty.
In any event, I wouldn't sweat how you handled it. Just get back on the high road for the next encounter, that's all.
