ok...i just hit this thread, i was on an earlier one for you SS, but I haven't caught up so bear with me.
If your husband is racking up your phone bill why don't you just cancel your phone service?
if he is eating your food why don't you just not buy any and eat elsewhere?
1. If he says anything legal to you just tell him he's not a lawyer and you never asked for his advice.
2. As far as defacing character - HE did that when he decided to have an affair. You are just telling the truth....if he accuses you again say the following :
"You defaced your character when you had an affair, my telling the truth isn't going to change who you are, you decide that. If you are ashamed of what you have done and don't want people to know, you should'nt have done it in the first place.
If you want me to cover up your little childish fantasy and add LIAR to your reputation you have made a mess of I can tell them you don't want people to know too...I am sure everyone would love to know how proud you are of your behavior."
The fact that he wants to cover it up clearly demonstrates shame. Unfortunatley affairs are addictions and shameless behavior comes with the territory...it isn't enough to stop them.
I really would do everything you can to cut him off. You and your lawyer are likley doing that now.
He really depends on your support, so I would be taking that away as much as you legally can if he isn't cooperating. I did the same thing.
If you are going out of town, have someone stay at your home and keep an eye on it for you.
I would be having someone stay there with me anyways, and have THEM buy food and he can't legally touch that.
Also, get a cell phone and lose the house phone.
If you can get a family member or friend to move in and us THEIR belongings and let them buy things, he can't touch them as far as I understand the law.
I would also be buying or renting a new place and selling the one you have asap.
I also would'nt be doing any meetings with him in person and I would have someone with me if I did and let the other person do the talking, your lawyer should be encouraging you to avoid interacting with him in his state.
