For the Guy with kids and a WW5

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What I actually told her was,"I will let you decide, but I want to go with you to the neurologist." She paused and said ok. Instead of just leaving it at that, I said, "Its up to you." She said that I could tell him what happened better than she could.

Is that my passive-aggressive behavior. I wanted her to think that she was making the decision. To realize the benefit of my going with her. We also realized that she got the date wrong. It is not until Thursday at 1pm.



Yesterday after work, I called roomie to ask if she wanted me to take the car. "Yes, I have been waiting all day. I didn't go anywhere for lunch because I didn't know what time you were coming", she said kind of short.

I said, "I sent you an email."
She then told me that she thinks they are blocking my emails. She got a message that an email was undeliverable due to content. My monkey joke. Thats why she hasn't responded.

I pick her vehicle and I am at the tire shop for 3 hours. I was pissed. I was there until 8:30. While there, I called roomie, but she didn't answer her phone. I called the house and talked to S14. Told him I was bored. He said he heard me calling his mom, but she was outside with the D's taking care of the puppies. We talk for a while. He has a friend show up, so I let him go.

I call "B". I was bored as hell and needed to talk to someone. Anyone. I was just feeling like sh**. I could hear other people talking to their significant others. Just talking. Stuff. Sharing. I didn't have that. So I called her.

Just talking about stuff. Her kids. Her mom. Our friends. Her ex. I update her on my sitch. Recent stuff. Haven't spoken to her in maybe a month. About a half hour.

They finish the car and I leave. I call roomie to let her know I was finished. She sounds kind of hurried. I ask her if she got in trouble for the email. She says not really, she got a message about it. I begin to tell her the joke, and she cuts me off to tell me to tell her the joke at home. She is on the other line with enabling GF. My ex SIL.

I get home and she is still on the phone. She is making all sorts of stuff for dinner. Left overs mostly. I overhear her talking. Some friends of ours who apperantly seperated too. My brother. I hear her telling the story of her getting sick and having to postpone her move.

She then tells her that they will have an apartment for her on August 1.

I am upset by the news. I have been thinking that she has not been really nice lately. Is this why. Maybe she got the news on Friday, and that is why she has been pushing me away. Her guilty defense mechanism. I am quiet for the rest of the night. She can tell. She is kind of quiet, too but she is trying to engage me in things a little. I give one word answers. We watch a movie with D6(groan, the Bratz movie again)then get everyone to bed.

I ask roomie if she got to eat lunch. She tells me yes, she took lunch and ate everything. She wanted more. I tell her that she mentioned that she was not able go anywhere for lunch, earlier. I assume she had taken lunch, so didn't know why she had to mention she couldn't leave. "I just assumed you would eat lunch at work", I say, trying to get her to slip up on something like meeting OM for a picnic or something. "I had wanted to go pay some bills at the stores" she says.

Again, roomie tries to get me to laugh at something. I give a little chuckle, but not really interested and then she gets on the phone with aunt from Laredo. I go to room and read the paper. I can hear her talking about family stuff again. Starting to cry, the funeral, the aunt, her mom and her husband. Same old sh**. After an hour, she gets off and comes to take a shower. Getting her nightgown, she pauses and kind of stares off.

I ask, "Is Frances ok?"
"Yeah, she's fine." She is still staring.
"Are you ok?"
She pauses. "I'm ok."
She showers. I snoop her phone. A couple texts from OM yesterday. Like he has tried to contact her, but got no response. A text from her little sister. Like she was forwarding a message. "Ask your sister to text me. I have not heard from her and I worry about her."

Sounds like she is trying to cool it off a bit. That was good news. Maybe an issue from last Friday, when she started to act a little distant to me.

This morning we are up. While shaving I decide to break my silence.
"I overheard you telling Robin about August 1st."
"What about it?"
"About the apartment being ready."
"Yeah."
"When did you find out?"
"Just yesterday."
"Oh, I thought that it might have been on Friday."
Long pause.
"Why last Friday?"
"Because that was when you started to act differently towards me. I thought you were ignoring my emails."
"Actually, I was mad at everyone on Saturday. And you shouldn't assume. Everyone always assumes the worst of me."
"You started pushing me away on Friday. What made you mad Saturday?"
"Your just being a man."

We finish getting dressed. I continue:

"What was it that made you mad on Saturday?"
"I was just frustrated at men in general. Mad at S14 for not calling all week, then he wants something and then nephew for coming and just leaving again. You just happen to be around. Unlucky for you."
"You want to know something funny? I figured it was something. Thats why I left you alone and was quiet."
"That was for the better."

Our tone with each changed immediatley. I made our coffee and offered lunch. She declined. She'll pick up something while out paying her bills today. I tell her that S14 wants to go work out and swim tonight at health club. We'll see.

Outside, putting something in the back of my Charger, I see more boxes. She comes over to take them out. "I got some more boxes."

She comes to me and stands in front of me. "Well, have a good day."

I pause. Looking at her. Eyes fixed. I go for a hug. She hugs me back.
"You have a good day, too. A GREAT day."

I break the hug.

"Bye. Don't forget to finish your makeup" and I was gone.