Mulesqb still getting kicked in the a$$

[mulesqb]

Unhealthy: I'll go to Lake George because if I don't, I'll get into a fight with her and push her further away. I'll do anything to make her happy.

This is exactly what I have been doing. I can't stop. She keeps telling me how she hasn't had a vacation in a long time and how me and the boys went away already - I told her it was her choice not to go. But then I agree to things. All I can think is that her and I would be together for a lot of the time up there and that would be the trade off of going with them.

Healthy: My children need me right now while why W is confused and in pain. Time with the neighbors takes time away from me and the kids and this is a boundary for me. If she insists on going with them, I may have to politely refuse as this is one of my non-negotiable unalterable terms.

She had planned for her parents and aunt to take them to their place in Rhode Island the last two weeks of August. Now I know why - so we can do the Lake George thing. If it were just the two of us, I would be psyched. Honestly, I'd rather get up to Rhode Island for a few days to be with everyone.

PS: the Mets and Lake George.....don't leave your house. BTW..if you DO go away ALONE with her, look into The Sagamore if it is in your price range.

Yes FIB - sorry - I never responded - I do live in NY. My lawyer has said it's ok as long as we agree ahead of time to these things. The Sagamore is exactly where we were looking. Her and I stayed there years ago at a friends wedding and wanted to go back. I just thought we would do it together and alone. It is a little pricey for me right now, but for alone time with her, I would swing it - not with the neighbors.

It turns out that my father is throwing a surprise anniversary party for my mother the week she wanted to go to Lake George. I told her that I am going to the party. She said are you doing that to be difficult because I don't want to go or because I really want to go to the party. I told her that I really want to go to the party and going with them to LG is not my first choice.