Well I basically have been up for 24 hours and am in need of sleep and I told the W that I was going to go home to get some sleep. She threw me a pair of my old swim trunks and said lets go swimming with the kids. I did and we had a blast, and then the tiredness started to catch up. I said I really need to get going or I am going to pass out.
Then W asks me if I feel uncomfortable around her at the house. I replied absolutely not I am having fun. So then she starts asking me questions like who am I hanging out with and where do we go. I said friends from work is who I mainly hang out with and she knows the spots where we go. Then comes the kicker, she asks ave a girlfriend :0 wtf!! My reply to this was that I told you in the very beginning of this mess that I would remain faithful and 100% honest until we figure this out. She didn't want to quit and asked me 2 more times who she was. I just smiled and pulled her floaty(sp) over to me and looked her in the eyes and said you know exactly how I deel for you and this situation, and I told you I would remain faithful to you! She also kept asking me if I was mad at her for this and if I was still sad. I said no to both and told her that I was just getting on with my life.
She just smiled at me and we changed subjects. Then I was excusing myself and told her thank you for the beautiful meal and the swim but I need to get some sleep. She asked if I was mad and to that I replied why would I be upset, of course I am not just tired and need sleep!!
I am wondering should I send her an e-mail telling her more in depth of what I meant by moving on. I didn't mean it to sound like I have given up on her but I am afraid that may be the way she interprets it!
I am hoping this is her reaching out and opening up more to me, but I could be reading this wrong...any thoughts. Ted
Hi Ted,
OK this is just what Bill (Bworl) and I think Racefan was saying. You are lucky she didn't curse you out this time and she is reaching out to try to communicate.
When you turn her down, you don't know you are but this is how she feels. Stop saying you have to go because you are tired, saying no to staying to eating to meeting cousins, etc because you are tired.
Next time you are tired, tell her you need to take a little nap, should you go home or would it be OK if you lie down here for a little while?
The reason she is asking about another woman is because when you decline she interprets that as you still not pursuing her to get her back.
Of course you want her but remember she felt ignored and that is why she left. So if you want to change things FOR NOW and FOR THE FUTURE RELATIONSHIP, you need to start now.
Yes email her, but not an explanation about you moving on. Email her a romantic e-card about her being the only one or something. And then do not contact her again, wait until she contacts you after receiving it.
P.S. My computer is in a deep sleep because of spyware and have a friend coming over today to hopefully fix it (it may take longer). I'm at the library right now on a timed computer so if I don't get back to you for a while you'll know why.
