Mulesqb still getting kicked in the a$$

[mulesqb]

Phoenix - Thanks for the post. I am just as confused. Yes, she always says the house. 95% of the time she spends with the neighbors she asks me to go with her.

When I took the boys on vaca without her back in March she called the next day and asked to reconcile, then called everyday after that until we got home. I actually think if either me or them stayed with her - she wouldn't have called once. She seems to be afraid to be alone.

Regarding the house - she takes great pride in the way she has decorated it. She truly loves to decorate and is very good at it. But there is always something about home. Even years ago when we went on vaca she we get home sick all the time.

She has referred to the neighbors as her family a few times. She actually has said that her parents and aunt wouldn't understand, but the neighbors are like family. When she was growing up, apparently her parents had friends that lived next door and were over a lot. My W likens this sitch to that. I've talked to her parents about it, and they say no way - this is very different.

My take has been that these neighbors didn't know my W until the MLC hit. So they don't know how she has changed. She has closed out all other friends and family. I think that is because she knows all will be shocked at how she has changed. With the neighbors, they don't know any better. They think this is who she really is, so she feels very comfortable.

I have been thinking a lot about trying to move. I have a lot of mixed emotions about it though.