Are you still friends with this guy he thinks you had the A with? Being completely honest (obviously it wasn't a PA) do you think there were any elements of an EA?
What I am getting at here, is try and empathize with your H. Find the tiny nugget of truth that you could agree with. Maybe even surprise him by agreeing that you talked to this friend about things you shouldn't have if there is an opportunity to do so in conversation - I bet that would throw him for a loop!
What other actions do you think might undermine your H's assumptions and hurt? Do you think if you cut off contact with the guy it would help your H heal?
Just trying to brainstorm ideas, please don't take this to mean I think you did have an EA or anything.
(((Abbey)))
Don't push. Be patient. Be his best friend if he'll let you.
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
