No, you did the right thing this morning. Don't try hold her. If she kisses you, then let her but don't initiate right now. That is very confusing! I could see why you are upset. Makes detaching harder...

I guess I'd kill for a little smooch from my W right now, at the same time if she went back to cold after it would just make it hurt all the more.

My W occasionally makes some choices with the kids that I don't agree with as well like prioritizing friends first etc. If the kids aren't actually being hurt you just have to let it go. They'll miss their mom and that's all there is to it. She has to be the one to see it herself and you know saying something will just set her off.

M:32
W:29
D:8
D:10
M 6
T 10
bomb 5/20/08
separated 5/22/08
sitch
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