YES! That's me... I need to put on the brakes more, like you suggested. I need to find a way to let him know when the important things are bothering me, in a way that doesn't make him feel put down. I just don't want to be pushing things under the rug.
I think I could have written that. If you find a way to do this, let me know. As you know from my thread, I also have to work on my timing...when I get upset, I want to deal with things right then rather than waiting for the most appropriate time. It is difficullt to think your issues through and completely change the way you deal with them before discussing them with your spouse.
It seems like you are making progress trying to do this.
