Dancequeen, I can understand that. Really. It's simple supply and demand. You have all the supply and we have all the demand. The catch is that we don't have the currency you want--you want to be that one special woman we want, the unique one we want even though we don't want the other women. We are biologically incapable of not wanting the other women, and there's absolutely nothing we can do about it. Controlling our *behavior* is the best we have to offer, and it's not good enough.
Can you understand that for a man who controlled those impulses, waited for "the One" and did everything right, it's frustrating to be told that all his effort counts for nothing with his wife because he "wanted to" do this or "would have" done that with other women? It's like the fact that he *didn't* do it doesn't matter. And the fact that "The One" means her, the love of his life, doesn't count for anything, either.
I'm not in a great mood this morning; maybe I'm not being fair here, but that's how it looks to me right now. (Ha, I didn't even notice until just now that Cinco also used the "The One" language. Great minds.)
