Does she feel that you fully understand the effect your words/actions had on her? Have you read any books on abuse?
It's late here and I need to get to bed but I'm truly interested to hear waht you have to say. Thanks for chiming in on my thread.
I know I was not innocent during my marriage and I would welcome the chance to hear more about what I did from my h. He however, doesn't want to hear or talk about the effects of his behaviour on me and that really puts a big block in my forgiveness of him. I am sure he is ashamed of it, but I really need to know that he understands how I felt when he threatened me that one and only time. Yes it was only once, but holy crap, he didn't really hold back.
Is it possible that your ex feels that she tried to tell you but you didn't listen? Maybe that's why she went straight for divorce. She may have done all her soul searching for months/years without you even realising it. Is that possible?
** Purple
As soon as you trust yourself you will know how to live. Goethe
