There's a lot of 'em; if you're looking for a date range, it was at this very time last year that my wife was in the throes of her affair.
To answer your question, yes, my wife was at least CLAIMING to be ready to work at our marriage when I first asked her for full no-contact and transparency. I don't think she really WAS ready, tho, and she refused to end her affair for two months when I finally re-confronted her even more forcefully. Ultimately, I had to file for divorce.
At the 3-month mark was when she came back to me, in tears and full of remorse, and begged me to take her back. It was then that I again insisted upon, and she agreed to, full no-contact and transparency.
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That is what Im'e thinking is that H is in A depressed state again trying to release her. I don't want to push the no contact until I know he is done with her totally. Am I wrong to think this way?
I'm afraid you have this backwards. Until your husband stops having ANY contact with her (even casual business contact and, actually, even NEGATIVE contact -- like a fight -- resets the clock), he will not get over his addiction. Every re-contact starts the "clock" over again at 0:00.
My wife was in what I would call "hard withdrawal" for 2-3 weeks, which is pretty typical. They say it takes about six months for TOTAL withdrawal; I think my wife took even a little longer than that -- maybe nine.
Other than one slip-up last September, she has had no contact with him.
