Hope4us struggle, part 6

[Hope4us]

I'm with ya ROOT.

I am making this decision based on what is best for myself and my kids. Both of them want to move home. It's not like this wasn't the plan anyway. My company gave me this field assignment so I could get the experience needed to move up and I was told it would last 2-5 years. Well, it's been almost 2 years anyway, if our marriage makes it and OM moved back here in 2 years we would HAVE to move immediately, so WHY NOT MOVE NOW?

If she does say she'll move I'm going to tell her I think it's best if she stayed if she's not coming with us for the RIGHT reasons. That she has to WANT to move because she knows it's the best thing for our kids and our marriage. If she's not moving for those reasons, I think it's best that she stayed here and figured out just what she wants in her life.

She knows I hate it here. I like it here, but I hate it for all it represents. And that's what her affair has done. She's taken what should have been a wonderful, exciting time for all of us and made the last year a living hell for all of us. But she still has the wayward, justified, entitled attitude, and it's getting to a point where I'm not sure I even want to be with her. And THAT'S why we need to move. Because if I stay with her any longer, I'll end up hating her and our marriage will not have a chance even if she figures it out.

There won't be any pressure. She can make the decision.