Puppy,
Was you W ready to be over OM and really work on your M when you did the no contact agrrement?

How long did she pine over OM and did she go through a depression. I am trying to remember your whole sitch as it was a while ago that I read it. Someone had a link to it.

That is what Im'e thinking is that H is in A depressed state again trying to release her. I don't want to push the no contact until I know he is done with her totally. Am I wrong to think this way?
Should I be giving an ultimatum at this point.
Should I wait longer and Just be the best I can be keep being the cheerleader and see if he cut's off his feelings for her. Don't know to many on here that have gone through it themselves for insite.

There have been a lot of babysteps since this first started the most recent being the letter he wrote me even though he told me he still feels for OW. It is comunication and that is something which he is so bad at. He wants everything to go away and pretend like it never happened just like most of his family. Ya know I could do that if OW wasn't still in his head. I could take what I have learned here and help make a very good M. Even better than before, and it was good until his MLC started.

We are going camping, Just ther two of us for three days. Tring to think of ways I can try to connect other than talking and sex. It shouldn't be so hard but him being so quiet and not talking much makes it hard to even carry on a conversation.

JAK

You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez