LMAO. I can imagine the tongues rolling out of men's mouths when T's at the beach. Especially when she pulls a bit of spontaneous yoga and then brings out muffins for sustenance!
Swimsuit shopping was not a success. There is a really cute tankini at target I've had my eye on since february or something, but when I went to the store in VA, it was totally gone. hopefully they'll still have some left in atlanta. perhaps this explains why am so into ebay these days, normally I just wait on something until poof! it is no longer in the inventory!!!
Muffins, however, were wildly successful. Now I just need to work on getting a swimsuit so I can wield my power to its maximum extent!! MWAAAHHHAAAHHAAAAAA!!!! OD, of course I saved one for you... all of you guys have lifelong claim to partake of any muffin batch I bake!!
OD, when I have more money i am going to get a fancy schmancy swimsuit from the same store (intimacy) where I got my bra fittings done. I did not realize that you can get swimsuits that are that nice and to have the experience of having someone else figure out what would work for my body would delight me to no end!!!! until then, target, which will hopefully allow me to start swimming at the gym... water aerobics here I come!!!
I just got back to ATL. I am sad to leave my family and probably am also having PMS, feeling rather low, but trying to embrace it, as usual.
I did get to do some gardening this morn with my Momma. I wore my crazy big black hat as a gardening hat, and we dug up the soil and planted squash (which you technically can view as a MELON, I believe) and green beans too!!!
No word from B, I DO need to work on a contacting-him-plan!!! either tomorrow or wed, I think. Something along the lines of, "Dear B, I hope you are having tons of fun at the XXX camp. Have you seen Genghis Blues?? I thought it was a super inspiring tale of a non tuvan learning to throatsing like a total badass. Your throatsinging reminded me of it! Here's a link... take care, T"
Whaddaya think????
Gotta get some food.... my refrigerator is on the barren side, unless I concoct something from eggs, condiments, shelf stabilized tofu, & frozen fruit....
That sounds like a good, funny, witty, snappy email...but, I dont know about the timing?? Is it too soon? He is away right, at a camp, does he have interent access there do you know? (I guess he does), would he be super busy and just enjoying the time away? Do you think it would resonate with him to get an email outta the blue from you, whilst hes in that little camp bubble, will he respond?
I dont know! I guess I am saying, could you leave it a little longer? I am sure it feels like ages since you last saw/spoke to him, but you wont get an easy 2nd chance to contact him, if he doesnt respond to a lighthearted email right now from you and then you will be waiting anxiously.
Dont listen to me though, what do I know!? I have fryed synapses lately and you know your sitch best, so if you think its time, I think you already came up with a great email.
As Kalni said to me though, whats your goal? Just to maintain contact? I was thinking maybe you were heading back to NYC soon, so do you need to drop that in at some point (when he is back I guess?). Thanks for your insightful words on my sitch, as always!!!! Thankyou.
Ali xxx
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
I feel like the message itself is in good shape, but you raise good questions about the medium and the timing.
It's been two weeks now. I do believe he has internet access because I've seen him a few times popping up on my gmail list of contacts who are online, but it's way less frequent than usual, so he may not have consistent internet or something. Maybe he has to use the music camp office's computer when they're not busy??? Complete speculation ehre. I can certainly relate to not getting back to people when you're in a bubble, I've been very reclusive and not returning friends' voicemails very consistently while traveling the past 6 weeks. So to send him an email when I'm not sure he has consistent internet and may be feeling reclusive himself may be setting myself up to be confused, if he doesn't respond for reasons that have nothing to do with me.
My goal is to try to see him in August, which will involve figuring out whether or not HE will be there in August, and when, which will involve trying to talk to him at some point before August 6th, when both our camps/festivals are over! that is 6 weeks away.
The other goal is to continue to try to grow the friendship and keep the momentum of that. So I am trying to choose the best move to do that!
Normally my philosophy would be to wait forever until he did something. But now I am wondering!!
Also, I've noticed that he responds way faster to texts and phonecalls as opposed to emails. If we decide not to contact him by email because of his internet access/vacation state of mind, which would be better?
((((ALI))))) thanks for your thoughts!! I'm glad to help you too!!!
I am tempted to wait till he returns from camp. It may be that he is focused on things there and may not be able to focus on you. Also you can ask him how it was in your email.
You could also just send a short text, not going into too much stuff asking how it went. Kind of available but not available... I don't know, he kind of popped up randomly in your life again, I'm tempted to make it look the same way.
It's a difficult one! What are your instincts saying? It's so difficult to know because you had really positive interaction, should you build on that or let time pass for him to have some musings and thinkings about you. Afterall you popped into his mind after 5 months, who is to say you won't again.
Sorry, I'm not being much help really. I'll shut up ;-) Hope you are ok, I'm starving any muffins left? Jx
Thank you for your thoughts!!!! There's one last muffin, would you like to split it???
I think my insticts are telling me to wait a little longer. But if I wait six more weeks, until he's back from camp (aug 6), then I won't be able to give him any heads-up on me being in NYC around the same time, which could be rather abrupt. Also, I want to try to find out when he'll be there so I can be there at the same time and hopefully meet...
Who knows, maybe it will be in my long term best interests not to aim for a meeting in august. Hm, I can start scheming about hot 180 outfits for ... december!!! Good thing I have TWO pairs of insanely fluffly boots!!!
Your thoughts are always welcome!!! No need to shut up ever!!!
I didn't realise that was when he came back from camp. I think 6 weeks is too long, I was thinking it was about two. In that case my view is you should initiate some contact but don't mention meeting up or anything. Just put some test feelers out there. See if he suggests a meet up.
I have just had my dinner but I always save a space in my dessert stomach so I'd love to split the muffin please :-)
Can't wait to hear about your hot outfits. I used my new red bag with budgerigars on it with my meeting with h todayand he commented twice on how cool it was. Well, to be fair, it is really cool he is right :-)
I really like the e-mail. It's perfect! My instinct is saying to send it now, and then wait patiently. I know you can do it because you've done it so well before. He will get back to you- I'm sure of it. How about leaving it until the end of the week and sending on Sunday/Monday maybe? As it's short I think he could send a short reply......
The swimsuit thing is so frustrating isn't it? I have to say (as a fellow meloner, that tankini's never work for me- they just make the top look massive and the bottom non-existent ). On the other hand, halternecks looks great.
I was looking for undies today and saw this: Chocolate Tankini- for some reason I thought of you. It's the built-in bra that makes the difference!
Thank you for reading as always!!! Back in the ATL... went to yoga class yesterday with my favorite teacher who I missed the whole time I was gone, but I actually cursed under my breath for the first time during yoga class !!!
Julia, yes, I'm planning on having a few no-mention-of-future-meetings exchanges before mentioning that I will be in NYC in August (and therefore hinting I'd be interested in meeting!). I always have room in my dessert compartment too! I think it's a seperate compartment from normal food! Your bag sounds gorgeous! I had to do a google image search for budgerigars before I realized you were talking about beautiful birds! I was like... is it... a badger, shaped like a... cigar??
BA, thank you for the hug!!! and thank you for stopping by!! When I went to target here in atlanta yesterday the swimsuit I had my eye on was also totally gone here. why am I such a retail procrastinator??? You're right though, I just have to use the sales to my advantage...!!
OD, Oh my gosh! It delighted me so much that you sent me a link to that swimsuit!!! I feel so glamorous that you, on the other side of the atlantic, are helping me with my shopping dilemmas! And I loved the site the swimsuit was on... it made me laugh!! thank you OD darling!!!
So... realizing that B does not appear to have appeared online for many days, I am wondering if in fact I shouldn't try to contact him via email, but instead, via text or something ??? but the whole idea of my brilliantly composed email was to include the youtube link. Maybe I could send a text like the email, but instead of the link say, check your email, I sent you a link? Or would that be too elaborate??
I have to laugh at myself for agonizing over these things.
and probably am also having PMS, feeling rather low, but trying to embrace it, as usual.
). On the other hand, halternecks looks great.