First time i read that post i sobbed and get tears everytime i read it. Yes i know my wife is in that situation.
The differences are she never said a word - until the bomb. Through our relationship i would have done anything to make her happy - and still will
She saw the changes in me instantly. I want the anger from her and am getting nothing - i want her to vent and get rid of it. I will never fight with her - i will never argue - i will never get angry - i will listen to all she has to say when she says it and validate it all (as i have done so far) . I think she needs lots of time for my changes to sink in and for her to trust me.
We are still best of friends and feel that now there are no two people better suited to being together. She was told every day how beautiful and sexy she was. My nickcname for her used to be "princes fragile petal" (you mention fragile petal in your post)
She has OM and am trying my best to be loving and supportive atlhough i am being torn apart.
I believe i deserve all the hurt i am experiencing for unknowlngly hurting the person i love more than anything.
I suppose the big question is - can she ever be in love me again ? And only time will answer that
