I fel much better today than on Saturday. It was our anniversary yesterday and we spent the day taking my S to scout camp. My W is really worried and instead of argue or trying to say that it will be all right. I told her I understood how she could feel that way and I made sure she was comfortable with the camp before we left.
Everytime she would bring it up I would just listen to her and tell her I understand.
We exchanged cards last night and things were ok.
We are not in MC I keep asking her but she wont go. After Friday I really want us to go and I am hopeing I can talk her into it.
I am throwing myself into work right now to give her space. I just don't want it to end this way. I think she has come to the realization that it was an EA and now she has that to deal with.
I want to be there for her but we need C and until she agrees it will take alot longer for us to heal.
You can always start going without her. I went to C long before H ever joined me. I had asked & asked him for years & he kept saying "we're not that messed up". Well, in his reality we weren't, in my reality, we were. You know you can't "talk" anybody into MC. When she hurts enough, she'll go. Until then, you go & tell me what you learn. hugs
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
I went to C long before H ever joined me. I had asked & asked him for years & he kept saying "we're not that messed up". Well, in his reality we weren't, in my reality, we were. You know you can't "talk" anybody into MC. When she hurts enough, she'll go. Until then, you go & tell me what you learn. hugs
