Cade, oh man, there's so many ways that I used to watch H for changes. I don't think you can "open her eyes" all you can do is change for the better & hope she sees it.
In our case, we had to start with an agreement not to be verbally or emotionally abusive. I typed one up & asked him to sign it. Then I insisted he read several books. I told him I wouldn't even speak to him til he finished one of them. We had a very long way to go.
What are some of the changes she's requested ?
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
