The two hardest phrases to come out of my ex's mouth were and always have been... "I'm sorry" and "thank you"
I never understood it, but it pains her to say that to me or anyone else. I think most of it stems from a distorted ideal of pride her Father taught her. Talking to him you would think everyone was always out to "get him." Maybe it's the same for your ex. Just a thought.
"It is curious that physical courage should be so common in the world and moral courage so rare." -Mark Twain
See Tom, Bethie is onto it. If she was the person you fell in love with in the first place this would be a simple choice. You would jump all over it.
She is not that person right now and may never be again.
Please do not confuse what I have posted to you as me telling you you should try. Not at all. All I care about is you and the talks we have had in the past about your son. No matter what your decision is, I want you to have a clear heart. I want you to feel like you did what was best for you, and your child.
I spoke to Ty earlier today and told him I would give you his number. He would love to talk to you. He went through a very similar thing here. Is he back with his Ex, no (of course she is a psycho hosebeast). He is however in a very loving relationship with a wonderful woman and he feels no remorse about his decisions.
I'm not confused Ian. I understand what your saying. I also remember when Ty was going through the same thing. He struggled with it, but I could sense it wasn't very sincere on his ex's part. Our situations are probably very similar. I'm at work now, but when I find some time tomorrow, I'll call you. I want to talk to you about some unrelated things anyway.
There are probably many of us who have or will be faced with a returning spouse. Even if it is a half hearted attempt. None of us are careless people with our relationships or marriages. We wouldn't be on this site if we were. I will take my time and think deeply on this one.
I'm on vacation for two weeks starting next Wednesday. I'm soooo up for a break. I'm taking my two boys to Lake Erie for 3 nights/4 days to do some walleye/bass fishing.
"It is curious that physical courage should be so common in the world and moral courage so rare." -Mark Twain
