Kris, I just got caught up with you. I am SOOOOO sorry! You should come join us in the affair forum! It is fun there. I was really routing for you.
I wonder if your H does have a sexual addiction problem or something like that. I think my H does. In 2006 we went through a crisis when he saw a prostitute when I was out of town one weekend. We went through counseling and I thought we had healed from that and then come the end of December and boom! an affair. I just wonder if it wasn't this woman if it would be another woman. I think the same for your H. It might be OW2 today and then OW3 a few months down the road.
You really had no choice but to file. Same as me...he left me with no choice. I don't know what was worse...walking in on your H with the OW or mine where the OW came to my house to tell me that she and H were having an affair. Regardless it all seems so surreal.
I am so glad to hear that the wedding went good. Back in October I was a bridesmaid in one of my college friends wedding. My H and I were getting along great at that time, but like your H he always felt a little weird around my college friends. He ended up going with me to the rehearsal, rehearsal dinner and ceremony but spent the reception time in the hotel watching tv. I had such a great time!!! Much better than I had when H was with me. I remember a friend telling me that was a sign that H and I had a good relationship...we could do thing seperate from each other. If only I knew then...
Anyhow....my heart totally goes out to you. Do you know OW2?
Me-31 H-38 M: 5 yrs T: 7 yrs No kids Went to Prostitutes 10-1-06 Found out about OW 12-24-07 Bomb on EA/PA: 1-2-08 OW ended it with H "for good" 3-8-08 OW is back 4-19-08 H and OW tell me that they are in love 5-19-08 Filed for divorce 6-5-08 Divorced 7-2-08