LIN, I'm so happy for you that you can move on. And, that you are moving on to a marriage that you were instrumental in saving. I'm so very greatful that you were still around to post to my thread on occasion. Ironically just this morning I mentioned you in another post. (Please tell me that's not why you are leaving.)
Best wishes for all the happiness and success in the future.
Me: 59 H: 59 Together: 28 years Married: 25 years in August "There may be someone else" 12/26/07 H signed a one year lease 4/1/08 H moved out 5/11/08 H beginning to show a tiny amount of interest 7/5/08 Is it possible that he is courting me? 9/30/08
Lin, Wishing you and your family all the best that life has to offer. You've been an inspiration and a God send to those who have followed in your foot steps. Take the lessons you've learned and share them in your day-to-day life.
I will not say goodbye as this would sound very final, but I will say this, all of our paths will cross again. Until then, enjoy your life to the fullest.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Hi ImLIN, I am so happy for you that your family is reunited, and that you are happy again. I would like to thank you from the bottom of my heart for all the advice you have so often given, and for supporting and encouraging me/us. I wish you and your family happiness and all the best for the future. Take care. (((HUGS)))
Lin...I really have appreciated your help with my sitch. I hope one day I can walk away and say that my marriage survived. I wish you the best....I will miss your much needed advice....please come back and visit soon...
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
I am glad you guys understand where I am at now...the posts are archived which is good because really after a while the advice one gives is pretty much the same...so if new ones comes "searching" they might find me...
I really just needed to redirect my focus...I felt like I was sitting in the past when I would share my story again and again...I realize it helped others so it was worth if for me to give back as I did take away from here too...
But now, with my marriage on solid ground, my H doing the right things for our family and taking the lead as he should I really need to start putting my time and effort into looking forward with him...not looking over my shoulder at what he did...
It sad to see all the marriages in distress but if I can leave one bit of advice it is to educate yourself on all of your options, excercise your power, be patient and empathetic...and give yourself and your spouse time...lots of time...during which you work on becoming the person you want to be!...I am definetly not the same woman I was 4 years ago...not because of what my H did so much as what I did for myself!
So now I will maintain GAL...this has been the best thing since our reconciling...we also make time for US...for family time...things are just so much more balanced then before...and this brings joy to us both...
So for all who read this...I wish you the best...you will get stronger...you will make it...and hopefully more of you will save your marriages...like I managed!