Wife is considering filing - Need Help

[Scott123]

LS, some of what you are dealing with sounds exactly like what
I am dealing with related to use LRT or not.

I have totally mixed feelings. I want to give my W lots of space,
but then again what if all that space just lets her drift right
away and just validate her choice of divorce.

Sometimes I think I don't even have the energy for this and
just want to walk away for good, but that's probably
just stress and emotions rearing their head into the picture.

I don't know what to tell you, I don't even know if I
myself should stay dark and focus on LRT or not.

I'm contemplating on going dark/LRT for say a month
and if she did not respond to it I was going to write her
a letter about how I felt about the whole situation, about
me overcoming my health issue, the kids etc and
if she didnt respond to that I would simply face up and
move on and be divorced.

I know DBng is too freaking stressful and I'm starting to
feel a lot of resentment to the way she is acting towards
me and the kids and that's not good.

I'm still undecided.

Maybe you should try to distance a bit and see if she starts
pursuing you more or less. Keep a good record even if it's
mentally so you can judge your progress.

- Scott