CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!!!!!!!! YOU DID AWESOME!!!!! I LOVE IT!!!!!!!!
Good job on reassuring your H about his appearance-- I am sure that meant a lot to him. I love how comfortable you were together, and the part about sharing your food like an old married couple!! AND HE STAYED UNTIL THE END!! THAT IS A BIG DEAL!!!!
I am very excited about these upcoming bathroom renovations. Can you tell me more about your plan?? It seems like the pattern with H is when you step forward, he steps closer...
(((((ESSIE)))) way to go, girl!!! and thank you SO MUCH for all your help on my thread even though I have been completely MIA...
Thanks for stopping by. Nothing to report. NADA! ZERO! ZILCH! Not one single bit of contact from H. 3 weeks is his normal limit. I thought our night went well - who knows what he is thinking..... thankfully I have long stopped trying to guess what goes on in that thing that is called his brain!
In other news... coffee date guy (I asked for a raincheck on the coffee date as I was too busy) has invited me to his birthday dinner. I'm going to go, cause its a group event, and its good to meet new people! (Even if I'm not overly attracted to coffee date guy, maybe he will have cute friends?_ And a group setting is much less intimidating, cause I still dont feel ready emotionally to date.
Was very tempted to find an excuse to contact H on the weekend just passed, and tell him that he needs to come and pick up his boxes of stuff that I packed away for him a few months ago... but I realised that I was a bit emotional and I didnt actually NEED to contact him - the boxes have waited a few months, they can wait a few more. I think that the next time he contacts me I will mention the boxes again, and ask when he will be able to come and collect them. Another 180?? Might jog his memory about our history?? At the least I will have more room in the spare bedroom!!
In other news my uncle has had a true mid-life crisis, and contacted my mum for the first time in many years. It was so hard to hear mum talk about it - I felt like I knew so much about mid-life crisis, and how to help MLC people. BUT I've deliberately kept the DB idea a secret from my family - people think I'm crazy, and then they get worried that I'm not moving on with my life.
HOPE YOU GUYS ARE GOING WELL ON YOUR OWN JOURNEYS! I'm lurking even if I'm not posting xx
So good to see you post!!! I really like how you realized there is no need to rush on him picking up those boxes. Question: what are your thoughts on the upcoming bathroom renovation?? What is your plan???? I hope you have tons of fun at coffee date's birthday dinner!!
Leave the boxes...push them up against a wall and cover them with a pretty table cloth or blanket and use them as extra furniture! It would be emotionally hard to see them go I think..??
Just take things nice and easy...one day at a time....you are doing an amazing job! And keep us posted about Coffee Date guy and his friends....!
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Me:43 H:48 M:24 yrs T: 26 yrs 2 kids ILYNILWYA 8-07 - MOW 9-07 H moved out 8-2-08 Back 8-18-08 Affair continues Back home but not emotionally
