Ian, I'm trying to remember...did you once say that you would consider reconcilling with your stbx if she did the necessary work, even though you are seeing someone?
Yes I did, and my girlfriend is completely aware of it. I told her that my kids and my family are very important to me and if that time came, I would act. She also understand that Carrie would have to do a whole lot of changing before that would ever occur and that I am not sure Carrie is even capable of it.
I also have told her that in time that may change, I do not know how my feelings will progress with her, or anyone else for that matter. Only time will tell right?
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I guess I am trying to tease out the line of "being ready." I do know that, without changes, I don't want the man my x is today. And it looks like he is determined to stay this way for the long-term.
Exactly....... they will never be the same person again, but they sure as hell better not be who they are today.
