NG: One positive about our H's treating us indifferently is that at least it's better than spew. I really admire those that are able to stand despite their spewing spouses.
Upside: Nope, H and I never - and I mean never - talk about our M. The only time we talk about D is when I bring it up (last time was 9 months ago). But that's an excellent point that I hadn't thought of, about H not being able to get married without getting D'ed first.
peace: I'm going to keep trying this positive reinforcement thing. I know I certainly didn't do it enough when we were married.
I called H yesterday to ask him a question regarding S. After we finished talking, he called me back to discuss another issue and we actually had a little bit of a conversation. About cars, but it was at least somewhat of a conversation which lasted more than our usual one minute. It felt so normal and H sounded like his old self. Less distant too.
I really wanted to send H a message today as I was filling out paperwork for S's school regarding our marital status. Wanted to tell him that I feel like smacking him every time I have to circle "Separated", but I didn't. I'm worried if it will have any effect on S getting in to the school, so am considering not circling it... Legally, we're not S, so it's not really a lie, is it???
