Wow Jak - that's pretty brave to call the OW! I forget in your case - did they ever actually have an R? Or was it a case of him pursuing her but she wasn't interested (or at least wasn't having an R with a married man)? If it's the former I'd have a tougher time believing her, but if it's the latter it sounds like she was probably being truthful. He really does seem to be hooked on this fantasy rather than an actual person.

How to shake that up is a tough one. I like Puppy's idea, if you think that would work.

Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7
Bomb 1 10/07/06
Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15
Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07
Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate
2/08 slowly improving
7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!)
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