I instigated some followup 'R talk' yesterday when my W came to pick up our children. Probably not the best timing... but I'd been holding it in for over a week, from when we half-started it, at the end part of our vacation.
Me asking her if she would put the past behind us, and stop holding it against me.
She didnt choose to let it go. She did not choose to ask me to attempt any "restitution" for it. Said she didnt see any use in that sort of thing.
But I think a small chunk of misperception may have been cleared. Dunno, would be nice.

Hopefully, i've gotten "R talk" out of my system for a while now.
If i just didnt have to worry about whether she's screwing her latest online boyfriend in real life now, things wouldnt be so bad. \:\( sigh.
Seems like the recent reticence to fool around with me, would most likely be due to her fooling around with him.
(compared to past ones, who were not "local", so not much possibility previously)

My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D.
Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M.
3 wonderful sons caught in the middle