Help! New to this...still hoping for R

[Rusty]

Yeah - the "in love" and "love" thing is way overrated! My pastor said it best to me. Love is an emotion that comes and goes, like anger, joy, etc. In the church we talk about commitment, not love. Because Love is a commitment to continue to make a decision to love. I really believe that once the chemistry, attraction, etc, wanes a bit, it takes commitment and a decision to continue loving no matter what. It's a concept that, I agree, society just doesn't get anymore. Relationships seem to be so dispensable now.