Is there a glimmer of hope for I'mstillhopeful ?

[I'mstillhopeful]

hoosiermama,
Thanks for wishing me luck last night. I have some comments for you on your situation, however, wanted to let others respond first.

Update on the dinner with H:
He called at 3:30 to suggest we meet at a very casual restaurant at 5 p.m. I followed my Coach's suggestion and did a 180 by telling him that the meal would my treat. I had cash in hand so there would be no mistaking that I might be using a joint credit card. I told him that I was disappointed that it wouldn't be a better treat for him. (The entire meal cost about half what I was prepared to pay for wine at the other restaurant.)

Toward the end of the meal, H told me he hadn't changed his mind and that he would not be traveling with me. I calmly accepted it, asked more about what made it uncomfortable suggested we tell our friends that we had made some changes and that was that.

In the parking lot he returned a lamp he had taken with him to repair, I gave him some of the things he had requested. I also gave him a few dozen fragrant roses from the heirloom rose bushes we have been planting and tending over the years. Oh, yes, also a DVD that a friend had made of our April trip. H and I are in about 40% of it and we appear to be having an absolutely fabulous time.

As we parted I left in a direction which was not my usual route. I could see my H watching to see which way I was going. I was more numb than anything. I was resigned to the fact that he cares so much for OW that he is trying to create a clean slate so their future will have promise.

When I logged on to the computer at 8:30 I was amazed to find an e-mail from him. "I just wanted to thank you again for dinner. And the roses, they are incredible...and, Thanks again for dinner. I will consider what you said about telling our friends yet still travel together. I am not sure."