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[hopeful4her]

You are right, root. But damn, how hard it must be. Just having my roomie involved with an OM. Hard enough. But to have him involved with my kids. I'd be wanting to hurt someone. After the D, maybe. But during. Hell no.

I can see your frustration, rop. But, you say you miss and love your W. Keep your emotions intact. Give her the good side. Take the high road. If you don't want her, then what you show her when ya'll argue, she'll get the idea that you are done with her, too.

If that is what you want.