TwinDad, once again you have made some really helpful points, thank you I really appreciate it.
- I resent his job because it made him really tired and he was/is obsessional about it but more importantly it took his time and focus away from me. He uses it against me now too. That is why he doesn't text back etc. He knows that I resent it and almost holds that against me. What changed to make you not resent it now? Do you have any ideas about how I can stop being held to ransom by it? - I am so proud of that bike; I love it and what it means. It is so me and he chose it without me hinting or anything, he thought of it off his own back. I wish I could have seen that last year. - I'm really going to try and work on subtly making him feel appreciated again. He's a man who likes to achieve and he feels like he is failing with regards to me and 'can't live up to' what I want/ need.
