Sorry, by asking why you were here if you were unsure is my own sitch bleeding in. Posted when I was a bit tired and frustrated. My W sees being unsure as a reason NOT to work on anything.
So I think the way H is acting IS quite frustrating. He's kinda doing it, but not to any great extent. Many of us would LOVE to have the chance to show our WAWs the changes we can make, the support we can offer, the attention we can give.
So it seems like you're in a bit of limbo. Being patient and trying is kinda working. But you still don't have what you need. What is your gut feeling about what will happen by the time you finish your diss?
