Your story is inspiring. I'm so tempted to print out your reply to lowrob and ask my wife to just read it. I'm pretty sure that she could identify with you, which might motivate her to read SSM. But based on experience I'm afraid that doing so would just make her mad and set us back even more. It seems like even if she knows that something might help our relationship, she'll refuse to do it simply because I've asked her to. Were you like that at one time?
Slightly over 3 months ago I read the first chapter of SSM online. It described the situation in my marriage so well that I ran out and bought the book the next day and finished reading it within two days - and I seldom read books. I asked my wife (who reads frequently) to read it 3 months ago and as far as I know she's never even opened it. I don't know what else to do. Like you used to, I think she sees our situation as being strictly my problem so she's not about to go to any effort to make things better. It's obvious that she either has no concept of the pain and loneliness that I've been going through or else she just doesn't care. Like lowrob, I'm always looking for ways to get through to her, but I've nearly lost hope for any magic solution. Short of asking for a divorce (which I don't plan to do) I don't think it really matters what I do, she's not going to change until she decides for herself that she wants to.
Enough rambling I suppose. Thank you for posting your story.
