You know, you are right situations can degenerate pretty quickly and to be honest I have been thinking (and analysing which I know is very unusual for me! :-) and actually it was a kind of 50/ 50 situation. He did put work before my happiness and he did state at one point that he really had been too busy at work to organise anything for my birthday which was pretty hurtful. It was only when I kicked up a huge fuss that he bought the Wicked tickets. He saw it as solving the problem, I saw it as him not caring and because I'd had to ask for his time and demand the tickets they didn’t mean anything to me. I think I just blame myself so I then think that if it was my entire fault then I can fix it.
I have come to the conclusion that this is exactly the kind of situation I am going to avoid from now on as misunderstandings can degenerate so quickly and beyond all proportion. That is why I am going to try and use tomorrows meeting to get a dialogue in place. I am going to do a 180 and talk about a situation at my work. He loves talking about work and thinking back we used to discuss it all the time before. But now, because that normally gets my back up because it is the first thing he asks (and I resent his work), I usually dismiss the conversation instantly but this time I am actively going to engage him. He should feel like he has helped me to fix a problem by the end of the conversation which I think he genuinely will do as I have always respected his opinion in the past (until he left). If he doesn't seem to want to engage with me over that I'll leave it but it is worth a try, and then we can talk about the house...
