Although I am a newcomer to the group, I am posting here first because SSM literally turned on a light for me. My H and I have been married 8 years and I have been low desire since day one. As all of you know, because of this, we have had so many fights and problems. 8 years have passed with the two of us chasing our tails.
Two weeks ago, my H went online looking for you-know-what. I caught him, this was the second time in our marriage he has gone to chat rooms because of my low desire. For the first time we talked about divorce. I thought that 2 weeks ago I was going to be a single mom.
I came across this sight looking for ways to find a good marriage couselor. I'm leary about counseling because I went for my low desire before and obviously it did nothing. I read some posts and chapter one of SSM. I could not believe how deeply the first paragraph of that book affected me. I went and bought SSM and read all afternoon.
I saw a post that said a light just turned on for them. That is exactly how I feel. In 8 years of marriage, I just never go it. I know I have a problem but I have been focused on the why of it instead of doing something to fix it.
I believe in this book so much that I want to go and sell it door to door. My husband and I have since made love. Something that hasn't happened in years. I felt butterflies. And everyday that we are working on our goals together and just talking I think, I love this man.
Michele, thank you so much for writing this book it has saved my marriage. It has opened my eyes and my husbands to a point of no return. With all my heart I am thankful and I hope that this book does the same for all of you!
