cookie asked me about my relationship with my mom. I started typing, typing typing... I don't know if I answered the question. While typing my 18 year old came in.. and we chatted. Rather.. I listened, he talked.
I told him about the invitation, that his dad hadn't been invited (mistake.. putting son in a bad position?), that his grandmother, aunts, uncles and cousins would be there. He thought it was messed up that they didn't invite his dad. I explained it was hard on everyone, that they wanted to be able to see the kids. What I do, we do is our own business but it's not a secret. His dad is also very good at intimidating other people. (mistake.. bad mouthing?)
I left the decision up to him if he wanted to go or not. He kept telling me about what's been going on.
I'm almost thinking that it would be best if just the kids go to the BBQ. Either of my sons is capable of driving up. If I don't go then that eliminates the strain for the kids.. if there is strain for the kids.
Would this be bowing out.. or making it even more complicated?
