I understood 2 or 3 things

[rop]

H4H - I can't be cool in these days. I am too busy and that, strangely, makes me more lonely and weak.
I miss my kids and my family.... an my W. I know, I know.... but when I get home dead tired and I and nobody is there it hits me badly.
I got in another argument with W, obviously about relation, she is so over me that I can't believe it. I asked her what does she hope to build with OM. He is never going to be family. She answered that he has ALL the things that I don't have...wow. A frontal impact with a truck at full speed would have been less painful.
But hey I asked for it!
In a tiny moment where I could recollect myself I said to her to imagine us walking at the beach, with our two big kids waking in front of us, look at each other and be proud to have raised, such wonderful creatures. This I think had a tiny impact on her, for 30 seconds, but that was it.
I feel angry, lonely, betrayed.... mainly angry.
Anyway the roller coaster is heading down, I am looking forward to the moment is going to go up again.

[runningoutoftime]

It can be a painful rollar coaster ride. Just hang in there buddy.

Also, try not to feel bad about OM being nice to the kids. I know it's painful because we feel it detracts from their love for us. But it really doesn't. If your W does go through with this, you will WANT the OP to like your kids. The last thing you want is OP to dislike them... That's a nightmare for the children.

I've always believed the more people who love my kids the better for them. Not that it doesn't hurt horribly. But, in the long run you don't ever want them hurt.

I'd take the pain before I'd let my kids suffer it.

[hopeful4her]

You are right, root. But damn, how hard it must be. Just having my roomie involved with an OM. Hard enough. But to have him involved with my kids. I'd be wanting to hurt someone. After the D, maybe. But during. Hell no.

I can see your frustration, rop. But, you say you miss and love your W. Keep your emotions intact. Give her the good side. Take the high road. If you don't want her, then what you show her when ya'll argue, she'll get the idea that you are done with her, too.

If that is what you want.