Thanks again.Yes,I have seen a soliciter who says he will probably have to give me-the bulk of the proceeds of our house sale (its been empty a year now) -maintenence until Im 60 -and split pension.Obviously if I go ahead with divorce and this settlement he will not be happy!I am hoping to keep the current friendly relationship going by suggesting that in order to buy time and avoid divorce which he says he doesnt want we go halves on rental for me for next 6 months.That would take pressure off him, give more time for our house to sell,and I could just about manage.We have actually got as far as decree nisi then he asked for a stop on divorce while he was so confused!He is calling me tonight and I thought I would just be social and friendly (we are very good at that -in 28 years no arguements just pushed everything down )and suggest a face to face meeting in a couple of weeks to discuss "what we both want" -focus on positives.I havent seen him for 7 weeks and miss him so much. I would do anything to help him but cant. My family think he is a monster but he is so weak and confused.I think I need to be upbeat and in control but not threatening. This wont be easy. I have become an expert at "acting as if " when with my life in limbo at 59 I want to scream.What do you think?
