I appreciate every thing you post, so never worry if you think you are being too harsh or anything. I do try to limit my contact w/ W as much as I can when I'm w/ D, but she seems to contact me frequently and it is becomming clear that she pumps D for information.
As for co-dependency, I am working on detaching my feelings from her and not letting her actions dictate how I feel. She does have some control over how I feel b/c of the current situation, but I often let her have too much control, which isn't good. I do realize this which helps me deal w/ her much better.
I do think that when the dust settles, I'll be able to face things w/ a much different, and healthier, perspective.
