Honestly, Flipper, you can write whatever you feel is in your heart. It's not like we WAW's are ignoring you - trust me, we hear everything you are saying, sometimes as loudly as if you were speaking through a loudspeaker It's not that we are ignoring your words and your thoughts and your feelings - it's just that we are dealing with so much of our own confusion and emotional distress that we simply cannot deal with anyone else's feelings at the moment. But again, I reiterate that we DO hear them and store them away for the moment(s) when we are ready to deal with them. Trust me -I have heard everything my husband has said to me and I value his thoughts and opinions on our situation. I do not take his words or feelings lightly - it's just that until I am clear-headed enough to be able to give him 100% of me, I cannot let them sway any of the decisions that I make. Those decisions need to be made by me and for me, because if I let myself be swayed by him and his feelings, I am afraid that we would be back in this situation again in the future...
Me (WAW) 30 H (LBS) 31 T since 6/10/1994 M 8/8/98 No kids S 3/10/08 D filed 6/9/08; put on hold 7/14/08 D finalized 10/13/08
It's not that we are ignoring your words and your thoughts and your feelings - it's just that we are dealing with so much of our own confusion and emotional distress that we simply cannot deal with anyone else's feelings at the moment. But again, I reiterate that we DO hear them and store them away for the moment(s) when we are ready to deal with them. Trust me -I have heard everything my husband has said to me and I value his thoughts and opinions on our situation. I do not take his words or feelings lightly - it's just that until I am clear-headed enough to be able to give him 100% of me, I cannot let them sway any of the decisions that I make. Those decisions need to be made by me and for me, because if I let myself be swayed by him and his feelings, I am afraid that we would be back in this situation again in the future...