Okay, we are on the same page. It's just a lot easier said than done....in my case....b/c that is my weakness. It always has been and therefore was the weak link in my MR. So, it is a very hard habit to break, but I'm working hard at it.

When a H and W don't have that intimate R that is needed....then it is very easy for those fantasies to enter the brain. When it has been 22 years since your H slept in the same bed with you and 12 years since having sex....yes, it is hard to keep those fantasies from coming. I hope I don't regret telling that. I don't know how much of my story you know, but it is too long to get into now. Anyway, like I said, I am trying hard.

But, the point was that the withdrawal from the OM is hard and I personally think that the fantasizing is part of it. I know that all the WAW's that have the courage to come here and tell their story needs support and encouragement to keep trying to work at their M. So many have come and posted once or twice and then left. So, I hope any and all of the men that read this will try to show some help for our friend.

Sandi

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!