Rob, You sound like a totally invested competent Father. You might think of not speaking to W when you are with your D. She just seems to be snooping as what you and D are doing and then is critical. If your D goes through than the best thing you can do for your D is help her adjust to the fact that you and W have separate lives. The constant contact with your W when she is with you and visa versa is not helping her. I just think maybe you are both using her to keep up contact with each other. Coparenting does not mean codependent. One of you needs to drop the rope or stop the D proceedings. This must be emotional torture for you, because you feel she your W has the power to say what happens. Don't mean to be harsh, just telling you what it sounds like from the outside. Which I know very well is hard to see when you are involved in conflict. Hope you had a great weekend with your D.
