Changing my perspective...2

[kikifree]

I'm going to Dar. H just texted me the same thing.

H knows me very well. I have caved in so many times. Not this time.

He knows the answers. My BIL is the one who told him so why doesn't he call him.

[MidwesternGirl]

You know what? Many times these MLCers are very forgetful. Keep that in mind when they repeatedly ask the same questions over and over.

[kikifree]

I know you are right Steelers but I feel H is just trying to see if I am going to cave in.

He can call BIL if he needs to know so bad.I didn't tell him about the trip. BIL did.

[MidwesternGirl]

Maybe not answer his calls for a while so he will be forced to call BIL?????

Or have you thought it is just an excuse to talk to you/hear your voice????

[kikifree]

I do not think I am going to answer his calls. He hurt me really bad the other day and i just do not see him respecting me.

I think he just wants to drive me crazy.

[Cinderellaman]

hi sweety, strange things going on with your H calling....

Don't wonder too much about it.

Thanks for popping over to my thread. Love you lots !!

[plentyhope]

Kiki, Is it possible that he forgot about the email, though? Just a thought. So you didn't pick up the phone when he called all 3 times?

[kikifree]

No I didn't Plenty. Believe me, I feel bad for doing that but what is the point? He hasn't called BIL at all.

I know it doesn't sound nice but H really has manipulated through all this. I am not a victim because I have allowed it.

this isn't like he normally calls and it is normal. It is just a way to control me after i told him off. He is seeing if I am bluffing. And I am not.
Do you know how painful it is to ask H to see MIL and he tells me no she wouldn't want to see you but then takes the whole family , including my daughter, to go see OW where she is a waitress.

Like i was worth nothing after all these years.

I guess It is time to be nothing to H if he sees me as nothing.

I am normally not like this and it is hard for me but he doesn't respect me at all.

this is a 180 for me i guess you can say.

[plentyhope]

Kiki, No, please don't feel bad. I was just asking to understand the situation. If this feels right for you - to do a 80, please do it. If this is what you truly feel is the right thing to do, don't let anyone else convince you otherwise.

Yes, I agree it's time he respects you. (((kiki))) I do understand how painful it is for your H and MIL to disrespect you.

[kikifree]

Hi Plenty. I Feel bad because i don't like turning my back on anyone or even H .

H emailed me with my email saying the dates a little while ago. So He knows the dates. My feel is, he is just checking to see if i actually mean what I said.

Plenty, I love hearing your thoughts.
Thank you.