ok sandi, I am not suggesting you share your fantasies about OM with your husband.
I suggest that fantasies be sharable or not have them. Fantasies are controllable and directable, despite what some have suggested.
So no, i am not suggesting you share infidelity fantasies with OM, I am suggesting you share fantasies with your H so you don't have affairs in the first place. Fantasies is a key ingredient in affairs is it not? I am suggesting that if a person fantasises with their spouse they will be less likley to seek the fantasy elsewhere in the arms of another person.
