well today has been a good day, we got most of my stuff moved into the new place. we worked hard and had little time for much else. she was pleasant and friendly all day. we stopped for a little lunch and that went well. then when unpacking she set up my kitchen the way she wanted it and told me what would be acceptable places for our pictures and art, just as she has done in all 8 places we have lived together. we really do have this moving thing down pat, but she seemed to enjoy setting it up. she happy took her copy of the key and said thank you. she really acted like it was her second home like originally planned. we are going to stay there tonight to finish putting things away. she offered to sleep on the couch but i could never allow that so she accepted my bed with me on the couch. tomorrow is her move and i will be staying to help with the set up and a bit of exploring the city, then balls in her court and its back to work and my own life for me.
Me 27, W26 T-12 M-4 SEP 4/29/08 Holding 250 miles Awaiting Support Current
Sounds like a nice pleasant day, the kind of R free stress free day that allows you to start building a good base without even trying to do so. Just being with each other with out the pressure of R-talks can be very helpful.
TwinDad Me 39, W 36, M 11 W - MLC, WAW???? 2 Kids B/G 3 YRS Old Start of the Long and Bumpy Road..... On the verge of piecing.....a new beginning
Hi JWS, I just read through your stitch. I have to comment about the computer games. I sometimes feel this is where I let my marriage go bad and led my H to an affair. I too was always on the computer. My husband would always go out with his friends and in the beginning never invite me, well I got bored and I would sit at the computer for hours and hours on end just talking with friends from home or searching the net for stupid stuff. It became an addiction, one that is very hard to break. This past spring I started taking online classes at my university so I was always on the computer doing that. My H started asking me to go out with him and his friends and I could never pull myself away from the computer. When he was home he would want me to lay in the bedroom with him and watch TV, but I couldnt part with my computer. I would get irritated when he wanted to use it and say are you going to be long? When I sit back and think about all this, it makes perfect sense. I paid more attention to the computer then to him and this has led him to go astray.
That is one thing I am working on changing. I am working on divorcing the computer. Its very hard, but Im trying!
I am happy things went well with your move. It sounds like you really have things down pat and now u are just waiting on her..which is all you can do!
Thank you Cindy. I hope that you are able to break free from the computer. In a lot of ways technology has become very invasive in our lives. This past year with my wife has made me hate the computer and text messaging and all the rest of it.
At the same time it is right here on this site that I find the support to keep fighting so what can you do about it.
Me 27, W26 T-12 M-4 SEP 4/29/08 Holding 250 miles Awaiting Support Current
Well we are finally separated into our own apartments 250 miles apart, and it seems so final. Since she is in school the best I can hopeful is to rebuild our L, R and M into a long distance thing for the next three years, but I’ll take it. Feels like it is time to move my post to the separated now what section of this site, so you can find the continuing story below
