yeah, she appologized for not calling me that night.
We had to have another discussion yesterday due to our son "telling on" each other...saying things that are obviously not true.
I felt we had to discuss how to handle it together so that we both did the same thing in order to be consistant.
My concern was that our son told me "I dont love mommy anymore, she gets crabby and breaks my toys and then she wont give me any food and she hit me with a baseball bat in the nose." Of course, I know for a fact that none of it is true, and he is using it as a means of trying to play both of us against each other.
I told the stbx that I was concerned because if he said that to the wrong person at the wrong time, she could potentially get in serious trouble. I told her I punished him for telling lies about his mommy...mostly because he went around and told a few of my relatives the same thing at dinner, after which I of course told them that it was not true.
The stbx said "yeah, he says stuff like that about you when I have him. Look, this is pretty traumatic for him, and I guess he's just trying to make the best of it."
I told her I realized why, but the point was that we have to have a meeting of the minds on how to deal with it.
We came to an agreement about how to handle it from now on, but the comment about "this is traumatic for him" kind of hit home. As time goes on, it is becomming more and more clear that she is planning to stick to her guns and go forward with the divorce. Almost like she understands that this is going to hurt our son, but she is going to go through with it anyhow...at least that is what the tone of her voice portrayed.
I dunno if I am overreacting or reading between the lines too much or what, but I tend to be pretty perceptive about things, and my gut keeps telling me she isn't coming back.
It's not one or two things, it is everything added together: The new pets, new furniture, the acceptance that this is going to be traumatic for our son, the constant going out, the new way she dresses (obviously to attract male attention), etc.
