I'm Sorry, FIB

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I want to clarify...Standing is good. I just don't try to push someone to do it.


Amy,

So what I hear you saying is as long as they were fighting to save their marriages - jacked up as they were in some cases - they were welcome to post freely on this board. But the minute they decided it was time to save themselves - their views are no longer important and are flat-out unwelcome to others who may be following similarly in their footsteps and NEED their insight. No. You hear incorrectly. Everyone is welcome to post. If you re-read, I mention we need to not help get someone to the point of the divorce. We need to speak life to the marriage/relationship. Obviously someone who is divorced is welcome to post.


What we learn here is useful whether or not we keep standing. Hell, in some cases it is priceless to other individuals and it doesn't make one bit of difference if we decided to hop off the rollercoaster that is DBing OR NOT.
Definitely. I haven't said anything contrary to that.
What if someone said that YOU as an individual didn't matter or didn't have anything to contribute???

You have twisted what I said. I said the marriage/relationship is the CLIENT. Not that the individual doesn't matter and we can't lend support.

I do not intend to further this discussion. I will continue to challenge advice I feel is harmful to the marriage/relationship.