My new thread - The lost world!

[smartcookie]

Hey I'm back, I was thinking more about Abby & trying to put myself in her shoes & imagining how she's feeling right now.

She may think her mom may have abandoned her. You said W doesn't call every day. To a child, that's really confusing. All the sudden one of her parents vanished almost. She's probably mad at mom & you. Maybe she thinks, somewhere deep down, that you made mom leave or she thinks mom left because she didn't love abby enough. She doesn't allow herself to feel this anger because if she's mad at you, then she's all alone. (in her little mind, not adult reality). So, if mom vanishes, she's mad at dad, yet clings to dad because she's scared of him leaving too, why would you think she'd talk to OTHER adults. Here's the two most important ones & she's majorly confused. Adults to her are now unpredictable people. You can invite her to talk about all these feelings. You can reassure her that its okay to be mad at mom, you, all adults. You just keep telling her that you ARE NOT going anywhere. That mommy loves her, but can't live with her right now & make sure you tell her all the time, this D is not her fault, she didn't cause it, & isn't responsible for it.

there, that's better. take care of her.