It is so MLC!! My H went tanning, dyed his hair black and wore gold jewelry (that ow bought him...)...H spent money all the time, going to the casino, big shopping sprees..all with OW.
You asked about what happened after our first meeting...well, he left the restaurant and went to OW's....this was 4 days before Christmas. At this point I did not know about OW, so I was still in shock.
When I found out about OW, I flipped, fought got everything out I wanted to say and then some. I even told him that I hoped and prayed everyday that his daughters would not meet a man like him and that I was embarrassed to know he was the father of my children.
THEN I started to DB...and the rest is history. H and I were just talking about all of this last night and he said he could feel that something was wrong with him and as time went on he began to miss me. I think the reason he missed me was because I would not give an inch into what I was doing in my life...I was secretive and always looked good when he came over. I think he thinks I was out on the town all the time!! Truth is he would pick up the girls and I would look good and he would pull out of the driveway and I would change into PJ"S and watch stupid TV all by myself.
I was very lonely at the time but part of me enjoyed being alone with my thoughts. My girls were young...D4 and D9 months, so I was always focused on them and I knew I could not fall apart because at the time I was the only stable parent they had. When I was alone I would cry and have a pity party for myself but I think I needed that to make me stronger.
Just an opinion, but I would not bring him the list of things he wants. If he wants them, let him come to get them or go out and purchase new things on his own.
I think maybe it was a blessing in disguise that you did not meet last night. I think it is good that YOU were the one that had to cancel. Maybe H will realize that you are not at home pining for him to come back. Do not stress the phone call for the new dinner date. If he calls great, if he doesn't call today, you know he will call eventually.
