Does a WAW want you to fight for them?

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I let her come over. We packed the clothes and talked about bills. Then she brought up the R. I tried to change the subject as soon as possible. She ask me why I was still wearing my wedding ring. I said because we are still married. She told me it made her feel uncomfortable the other night at the retirement party. And also added it made me look desperate. That the last ting I want. I just replied, if it makes you feel uncomfortable then I will take it off.

Then she said something that gave me encouragement. All along she has been using the ILYBNILWY line. Not yesterday. She said "that if I loved her as much as I say I do, then we would not be in this situation. She hasn't felt loved by me for the past couple years." It really does hurt that she questions my love, but as I think back I do understand why. I stopped doing the little things. Just kind of walking through life. Content to work, go to school, watch TV, eat & sleep.

But I was thinking after she left yesterday. Wow it should be easier for me to prove my love for her, than wait for her to realize she does love me. Don't get me wrong, I am still not going to pressure or push. I am going to practice the DR.

Besides it seems to be working. The more I avoid the more she calls. Not that I avoid her, but I don't txt, I don't ask her to do stuff. Some of the mistakes I made early. This morning she was supposed to drop my d off so we can leave for vacation. Instead she called and asked if i would like to meet them for breakfast. I said sure I haven't ate yet, thats fine. We ate breakfast, I ask about a project she was working on, and stuff like that, small talk. We finished, she gave d hugs and kisses. Told me to enjoy the vacation. I could tell she seemed sad she wasn't going, but I didn't mention it. I just said thanks and we will see you in a week.

OK time to get on the road.

Thanks everyone for the great advise!!!!